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10. The Ketubah (marriage document) should be completed by the artist at least one week before the ceremony.  All information plus the document should be in the hands of the rabbi at least one week before the ceremony.

A. Please select a Shakespearean Sonnet, poetry from Elizabeth Barrett Browning, Kahlil Gibran, The Song of Songs in Scripture, readings from the book of Genesis or other Biblical books such as Ruth, or any poetry on love, friendship, caring, responsibility and all the attributes that compose a good marriage.  After selection, please write a short paragraph explaining your relationship to the poetry and why you like it and why it applies to you.  The reference librarian at the public Library can be most helpful.  It is also suggested that you read several pages of such material and love poetry to each other on Sabbath evenings, to set a romantic Shabbat mood.

B. Please familiarize yourselves with general readings in Jewish History, Philosophy, Symbols, Rituals and Holidays. Appropriate books and magazines may be obtained on the religion shelf of Barnes and Noble or Borders or other Book Store, in a Temple gift shop or the library of a Temple or Synagogue near you.  Please read and learn enough to understand something about the broad outlines of Judaism and the Jewish tradition, Jewish holidays, holy days, ceremonies and customs.  Look at relevant videos and movies, become acquainted with Reform Judaism and Jewish Values, and the role of the Temple and Synagogue, the United Jewish Federation, the National Council on Community and Justice, the Anti-Defamation League, Jewish Family and Vocational Counseling Service, and research some web sites for material on Jewish and Interfaith Education in religious life today. 

11. Reform Judaism is a religious response that asks you to use your mind as well as your heart to understand this timeless and timely heritage, and your own family and cultural background.  We are one of the few great religions in the Western World that makes a full religious response out of education and learning, doing and behaving, more so than by simply making statements about believing and faith.  We also reject the belief that any single man has exclusive rights to divinity, even as we assert the divinity, the essential worth and dignity, of every woman and man.  We hold that the more questions, the more doubts, the more inquiries you have, the better possibilities there will be for understanding and mutual acceptance, and the better possibilities there will be for healthy agreements and cooperation later in the marriage.

12. Honorarium and expenses are negotiable.